Unsolicited Advise

A friend of mine was recently complaining about all the 'unsolicited' advise she got while on visit with some family. As I heard her vent, I chuckled. No! I was not laughing at her, I was laughing with her.
I had been there, felt that and wanted to throw a brick at the person giving me the advise/ suggestion/ vishesh tippany!
'When I am strict they tell me I am too strict and when I am not they tell me to be more strict!'
In situations like that we feel exasperated. We moms are the major receivers of these 'suggestions'. Dads either escape the situation or as my husband does, takes it through one ear and throws it out the other.
Me as a mom, I will take it and brood on it for the longest time. I cannot help it.
'Why do you correct him?'
'Why don't you correct him?'
'Do not yell at him?'
'Do not force him to eat more'
'Why don't you give him more to eat?'
'Why is he not putting on weight?'
'How could you let him fall? ' (Yes ... my child falling is entirely my fault and completely in my control!)
'Why don't you try to feed him ......?' (101 suggestions ... mainly from grand parents and grand aunts)

While we get a lot of suggestions from in-laws and parents and aunts and uncles, what I see is I mainly get advise from other mothers.
'Why don't you send him to school?'
'Why don't you feed him x,y and z?'
'Why don't you dress him warmer?'
'Why did you dress him ,,,?'

I could go on and on. But then I stop. Mainly because I find myself guilty of the above as well. I find myself giving 'unsolicited' advise ... frequently.

The other day as I was speaking to another mother  and she decided to vent. 'He doesn't eat anything!'. All she probably wanted was a listening ear. I decided to go on an advise spree.
'Have you tried  .....'
I found myself half way through listening to 'myself' speak. Why was I doing this?
So here is my urge mommies .... lets not do it to each other... give unsolicited advise. If you catch me ... proclaim me guilty.